Finding Yourself Again in your 40's. 

Something shifted in 2024. I'm still working out what to do with it.

Last year I was building something called Put U Back Into MuM. Before that, you might know me for Emotional Confidence for Women. Different ‘brands’. Same focus.

I’ve spent years sharing my life with my kids, about the emotional weight of parenting through the hard times. I’ve shared insights for mothers who were disappearing under the load of raising children who were simultaneously becoming their own people. It is real work. It mattered. And the women who found their way into that space were extraordinary.

Throughout all of it, life, as it tends to do, kept moving.

And somewhere between then and now, I found myself having to stop. Not because something went wrong. Not because I hit a wall or had a breakdown or arrived at some dramatic crossroads moment. But because life changed so consistently, so significantly, and so relentlessly across 2024, 25 and into this year, that I had to actually look at where I was standing. And ask myself honestly whether the direction I was heading still made sense.

The honest answer was: not entirely.

The last two years have been a lot. I'm not going to dress that up. There have been challenges that have, at times, left me genuinely reeling. Relationships shifting. Parents ageing. Children growing into people who need me differently. The whole structure of daily life quietly rearranging itself in ways I didn't always see coming. And through all of it, I kept working. Kept showing up. Kept helping other women find their footing while privately recalibrating my own.

That's a very human thing to do. It's also, I've learned, something a lot of women in their 40s know intimately.

This decade has a particular quality to it. The things that anchored you - routines, roles, the sense of purpose that came from being needed in very specific ways - start to shift. Children get older and more independent. Parents need more from you just as children need less. Relationships that were built around one version of life have to find a new shape. Health can change in an instant and entirely change everything. The future, which once felt like something you were hurtling toward, starts to feel like something you have to actually choose.

And in the middle of all of that, while the vortex of life keeps spinning, many women find themselves standing very still. Feeling a little empty. A little lost. Not dramatically. Just differently. Still busy, still capable, still holding everything together. But doing it in a way that feels increasingly disconnected from anything they can name as their own.

That has been my recent experience. Not a crisis. A recalibration.

And what I discovered on the other side of it, or more accurately, what I keep discovering, repeatedly, on the days when things are genuinely hard, is that the work I have done on myself over the years was not decorative. It was structural. The emotional grounding. The nervous system work. The years of understanding how I process and react and regulate. All of it showed up when I needed it most. Not to make things easier. But to make me steadier.

I didn't stop reacting. I didn't stop feeling the weight of things. But I stopped being at the mercy of it. And that distinction, I have come to believe, is everything.

So this page, and the way I show up on Social Media in general, is changing. Not dramatically. But honestly.

I'm still doing the same work with women. The root-cause emotional work, the nervous system piece, the identity layer that sits underneath all of it remains a solid pillar. Over 350 clients, many years, and more conviction than ever that this approach matters. That distinction matters. That going to the actual root of what's driving how you feel, rather than managing or coping or reframing, creates something that holds.

But the lens has widened. Because the women I'm seeing now aren't only mums of teenagers dealing with a specific chapter. They're women in their 40s navigating the full complexity of a life that is genuinely in transition. And what they need, and what I love them to discover, is to trust themselves enough to navigate it.

I'm not coming back to social media full time. Maybe ever. I’m sick of it, the constant noise and effort of it all. I want to say that clearly because I think it's worth saying, and it explains much of where I’m at.

Life has balance now that it didn't used to have. I'm not interested in trading that for a content calendar. But as I continue to work with clients, and as I continue to build something that feels more true to where I am, I'll show up here. Occasionally. Honestly. With something worth saying.

This is that beginning of the next chapter.

Bree x