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Why Do I Have Such Negative Thoughts About Myself?

Bree Stedman, July 30 2026

There's a question I hear versions of constantly. It comes in different shapes: "Why can't I stop being so hard on myself?" or "Why do I always assume the worst about what I've done?" or just the very raw version, at 2am: "What is actually wrong with me?" Nothing. Nothing is wrong with you. But something specific is happening inside your brain,...

What is Head Talk? The Voice Women can't Switch Off

Bree Stedman, July 2 2026

Head talk is the running internal commentary that plays in the background of a woman's mind. Not the dramatic thoughts. The quiet, constant ones. The low-level critique. The replaying of conversations. The pre-emptive worry. The comparison. The judgement. In my case, it was loudest when I was mentally rehearsing conversations I needed to have...

The Way you Judge Other Women says something about You

Bree Stedman, June 18 2026

Not a comfortable title. I know. Stay with it. Think about the last time you had a strong, fast, negative reaction to another woman. Not a considered opinion. A snap. She posted something and you felt that instant curl of irritation. She said something at work and you wrote her off before she'd finished the sentence. You saw what she was...